tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8534564897606473429.post4319224220026551011..comments2023-10-16T07:01:26.559-07:00Comments on ~ Addo, ergo sum ~: The disillusioned role of friendshipMariusz Popieluchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09285082217039015347noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8534564897606473429.post-20528073944328347522010-05-28T19:56:54.705-07:002010-05-28T19:56:54.705-07:00That is a correct conclusion. We both are talking ...That is a correct conclusion. We both are talking in foreign languages.<br /><br />ZAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8534564897606473429.post-28837276123841560002010-05-28T07:23:50.863-07:002010-05-28T07:23:50.863-07:00Reading your responses carefully, I can conclude o...Reading your responses carefully, I can conclude only this much: I may as well have written this in a language foreign to you<br /><br />In other words, your comments contain no evidence of you having grasped the main point in this short bit of prose.Mariusz Popieluchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09285082217039015347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8534564897606473429.post-65969568968677065412010-05-28T04:55:51.875-07:002010-05-28T04:55:51.875-07:00"The more I think about it, the more I’m conv..."The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that a true friend is but a refuge."<br /><br />True Friend is not 'but a refuge'. Friend is refuge. There is nothing more to friendship it is the 'safe place' that we all should have. The refuge is of course reciprocal (give/take).<br /><br />"A healing, illusory sanctuary from ourselves or from the rest of the world, when either of them becomes unbearable."<br /><br />"Sanctuary from ourselves…" – this sounds very egotistic. One should not claim that one does not need the other - where the ideal other is the true friend unless one is (and can prove it) THE center of the universe. <br /><br />"That's why true friends need to be kept in an existential quarantine, away from all that they are meant to heal - ready to offer their idealised self on cue, whenever we need it."<br /><br />It is just but one, restricted view and the use of the term: "existential quarantine" makes the above sentence a paradox. If one thinks that one does not need a true friend than all the above does not make any sense. Not needing a friend is equal to not having one. If one has 'true' friend just for the sake of keeping him/her in a quarantine there is something cruel or even pathological about it.<br /><br />"Also this is why the elimination of this necessary isolation ruins friendships or gives them the grotesque intermittent form."<br /><br />Here is the cardinal mistake: True friendship is a connection, much deeper than anything imaginable (non erotic) between two people. And such a connection is never intermittent. Intermittent is only the refuge – it is taken/given when needed. You missed the one crucial element of friendship: give and take – not just give or just take.<br /><br />Just give or just take is outright dishonest and should never be called a friendship.<br /><br />ZegarnekAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com